Mate, it's usually difficult getting the same size flange/head on Toyota bolts as a lot of them are made to JIC (or something, japanese) standards which differ from ours. (AS usually specifies a bigger head for the thread diameter).
Toyota bolts are usually marked with a number to specify which grade it is (and they have torque tables which specify the torque to use) not sure if there are any cross reference tables for material specs however.
If that bolt is in a spot with limited access I would suggest getting them from toyota or raiding a wrecking yard/wreck.
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